The stages of introduction of BDSM into your bed:

1. It would be nice to understand how, in principle, the subject of BDSM is close to your partner before you start spending money on BDSM products. I suggest you watch some BDSM porn together. No matter how interested you are to watch a pretty student being tortured by equally attractive nurses, concentrate on your partner, more precisely, on their reaction to what is happening on the screen. If your partner doesn’t seem to be all that thrilled by it, then turn it off.

   If you are one of those couples that is afraid of watching porn together, then perhaps you should not try BDSM but start with something less extravagant. For example, try to watch porn together, that’s a good start.

2. Are you still puzzled with how to push BDSM devices into your bedroom so that your partner won’t consider you to be a pervert? It’s simple, get a special room at an hourly-rate hotel and tell your partner what you thought about spicing things up a bit and having sex somewhere else. Everything else is up to you, you may bring all the BDSM toys there, which will make it even dirtier and perverted.
3. Even freshmen know what is the “safeword”. But let me remind you of that. A safeword is needed in order to stop the process if something goes wrong or does not bring one of you any joy. I suggest you to not go overboard with your games, but still, it is important to have one, just in case.

   It is customary to negotiate a safeword before you ever unzip your pants, more precisely, when you both enter your bedroom. Words like: “no”, “stop”, “enough”, etc. cannot be used as safe words. Resistance is a part of the game. Therefore, it is better to let your partner scream a word that has nothing to do in your bedroom.

4. If you started your BDSM session and your partner agreed that you should dominate today, you do not need to ask them again. After all, BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline (and Domination), Submission (and Sadism), Masochism. It’s not about being pitiful towards your partner.
5. The idea of having a drink before a BDSM session theoretically has a right to exist. There’s only one thing to consider: if you are the one who dominates, it makes sense to allow your partner to drink some alcohol, but you should stay sober. Because the main thing in BDSM is not the right choice of whips, but safety. And being in a compromised state of mind, you can easily hurt your partner. This experience can and should be exciting, but not traumatic.

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